Thursday, September 28, 2017

Things happen... You deal with them

The first part of this blog that is yellow is my dumping to get to my point in the white part at the bottom.  I needed to go through this, as I have realize this works for me right now.  I do a lot of writing I don't post, in an attempt to leave something for someone after I pass to maybe think about.  Not to be grave, I plan to live into my 100's, I work out all the time, but I know it will occur at some point.  Hence my title "Things happen.... You deal with them" - HAHA!

As a principal things happen and you are not prepared.  Things happen that you are never prepared 

I constantly spend my days saying, "I never saw that coming" both positive and negative.  You constantly question if you have ever seen this before, over and over you just don't know.  

That is the beauty and beast of the day.  

What I have begun to learn and I think poetry and an attempt at being creative has helped me, is that I need to see things as they are.  

Not as what they could.  Growing up I did physical, but interestingly "self thought" did escape. 

What does this mean? I was a doer, what did tomorrow bring, just need to blink, with a wink and REM sleep, I forgot, moved on, not wasted time.  

I needed to think in reality, not in fantasy, understanding my limits, and understandings that I can't help anyone, certainly not all, key was helping myself first. 

For example, listen to the song I can't repeat here, but repeat now over and over, heard long ago, just rediscovered now, on replay day after day.  That kid only knew one speed until he was way past Swift's 22. Now I need 2, just 2 from time to time, to make sure my mind is ready and steady. 

Analogy -  Down under slice from the "Belly", you figure that riddle, you come see, we will share a moment and a time, music has always meant the most to me.   

All of this has just allowed me to speak to what I want to write and what is the topic.  I think you need to figure out who you are, what you are comfortable with, and most importantly, what your needs are that need to be satisfied before you can lead.  Without satisfying your own needs, you will never be able to help others satisfy their needs.  I think I have learned this from some great people that I have surrounded myself with, and a lot of deep self reflection during exercise, running, and quite frankly monotonous tasks like cutting the grass. 

I truly feel that we are only as good as we are right now.  I did not always think this, I actually never thought this for a long time, so two thumbs up to growth!  Still working on it and still know that I have room to grow, which actually is beginning to excite me as a personal challenge like getting a better time at a race.


Saturday, September 23, 2017

Inclusive Culture

To be inclusive is to see what others are
It is to be open to difference, not making inference

Welcoming to the one, the all, freedom
It is an inclusive mental conundrum

Include, precludes the notion you will deal
Be real with your feelings, dealings, and needings

To be inclusive means and seems to be the dream
But to be inclusive means you have to sacrifice something

Nothing you can't handle, just take the old thoughts off the mantle
Change the sheets, inclusion is not where we all meet

It is within, a call for reflection, why you alive
To keep out? To include, what are you willing to compromise

The promise that together we achieve, we are the power
Leading, learning, access, innovation, early in our childhood

Get the idea of segregation out of the thoughts
Drop the idea of doing it alone, need to embrace the referendum

Uncomfortable is the adjective and directive of the narrative
Verified by a stance of admittance of your bias to embrace





Sunday, September 17, 2017

Timing, Medium, Method, and Message of Communication

Communication is the ability to know when to deliver the right information at the right time. Effective communication is the difference between get to this spot on your own and being given a map.  There are things that need to be repeated over and over, there are things that might come off as enabling, and there are things that just need that at the right time feel.  When you communicate it is important to know what is coming up next week, but also next month, and 3 months from now.  The better you are at letting people know at the right time the more effective communication will be.  


For example, sending an email on Friday at 10:00 pm about a new assignment spot, is probably not a good idea.  Giving people their new assignment spot, when they already had an assignment 5 minutes before they need to be there is a good idea.  They probably would have forgotten otherwise. They were already coming, they are just shifting their position.

I have talked to many and seen many leaders do the “I put it out there…” and nothing was communicated because timing and delivery method was not thought through.  Try to be deliberate in message, when, and how.  Not claiming to be perfect here and there are many methods I need to improve in, but I think I am starting to see the power in timing, method, medium, and message.  

Friday, September 15, 2017

The fix... What is the fix?!

I am reminded over and over again that there is no way to fix it
Fixing it actually relies on our ability of acceptance

Acceptance relies on our ability to understand where we are
Understanding where we are is dependent on experience

Experience is only gained through time and events
Time is one thing we have no control over, the one thing that never stops

Events are those things that happen to us, being there when it drops
The only part we have control over, is how you feel about them

How you feel about them then becomes your fix of the situation
The situation where you can only control your feelings and emotions

Emotions and feelings are what drive so much of our work
Our work is what drives us to find a fix, the paradigm and the trick

So back to my point, that I have not made very clear
Clarity gained when you realize the fix is no where near

The fix is you, the fix is how you react, the fix is what you do
The fix is who you are, the fix is how you shape your perceptions
The fix is showing up every day, the fix is seeing the incremental growth
The fix is realizing to truly fix something, is acceptance of who you are

The fix is you, not them, the fix is gained when you understand
For understanding there is no fix, frees you to find a way

For a way is a path, a direction, a drive, a passion
There is no fix, so give up looking
Just rely on what you set as your vision and your mission