Wednesday, January 24, 2018

Okay with less than 100%

There is a lot of talk about educators as superhero's, champions, and fixer of all things.  I think the idea that we are wonderful, dedicated, passionate people is wonderful and needed as our profession is so hard.  We also don't need this undo pressure and standard that is impossible to uphold. 

Personally I don't want to be a superhero, champion of children, or fixer of all things.  That is a lot of pressure.  I want to be known as a person that comes to work every day with my 100% best that I can provide that day.  If I am sick, that 100% may appear less, if I am tired, that 100% may appear less, if I am stressed with other things, that 100% may appear less.  If I am simply in a funk, that 100% may appear less.  A funk as I define it is a feeling of being "off" without a dedicated known reason.   

I want to have more healthy, wide awake, and stress free 100% days than not.  I have control over much of this and some I don't.  I need to be okay with the idea that I left my cape at home on certain days.  I need to be okay, that some things actually bother me.  I need to be okay that I will disagree with others and others will disagree with me.  I need to be okay that there will be days when everyone is finally home, I feel like I lost. 

If I can't be okay with less than 100% or feeling like I lost, then I will never really appreciate when I feel 100% or feel like I win.  I want my wins and my true 100% days to be my drive and motivation.  I won't be able to do that if I can't accept reality and undo pressure we put on each other and ourselves.     

Saturday, January 20, 2018

To block or not to block...

To bock or not to block, that is the question
Recognition of a thought, I have only gone
To that setting with bots and one guy against the nation

Just saying, to me it means you don't care, you only trick no treat
You need it to be about you, only attention, no reflection
No other mention, recognition, it is what it is, and "best"
Are overused statements, but whatever, the pun is next

I am welcome to all, I don't deserve anything, sorry for the ruffle
Feedback on twitter is harder than finding truffles,
It's muffled, between the Roots, Thoughts, not black
Just interested for a tweet back

Here is what would have been said, if not for the 280
Lately, it is disgusting the amount of consensus
The obvious, the relentless evidence of nonsense

I want to engage, but how do you with this:
Treat all as if, the if, is the as, of the relationship
Or my personal favorite genre of the minute
The time ya, the moment, quotes are infinite
I do it for, I don't stop until, I opportunity create

What if you talk about the trouble, the times
The hour you spent, not positive, but you survived
What if you spoke to self, and did not speak to the masses
Wealth in how you convey, how you feel, real issues

Not what you think will get likes, what you may pay to promote?
You signed a contract, not to be paid, the day you decided to educate
Retire, do your thing, bring in the green, but any time spent away
Is not what they deserved, by our kids, as you've claimed it

Don't tell me your day to day is not affected by your pages
Your hashtag, your site, your images
Just don't convince others that kids are only it
We are all important, something not to forget

Thursday, January 11, 2018

They way you talk to boys vs. girls

Try this approach the next time you talk to boys and girls in your class or your school.  I have had thousands of one on one conversations with kids, I try to do this whenever I can.

Use this approach when you are trying to find something out, they seem off, they need to share, calm down, get back on track, etc. Not necessarily if you are delivering consequences, that is slightly different. 

I have used these different approaches a lot in my years, I think I have seen some great benefits.

For boys:  Talk while sitting or walking next to them, side by side, shoulder to shoulder.

For girls: Talk while sitting face to face with them.

For boys: If you can find an activity to do together, even better, if possible, if not just be next to them. If you are or need to be face to face, give them something to play with in their hands.

For girls: Listen a lot and look at them in the eye. Ask them how they feel and what can you do to help them?

For boys: Tell them what you might think, if they don't open up right away.  Asking them what is bothering them or how they feel, will probably initially get you no where.   Let them agree or disagree with what you think, and take it from there.

I am not saying that you can never sit face to face with boys, sometimes it is necessary, especially when delivering consequences, but use the side by side approach whenever possible. I am also not saying never walk with girls or sit next to them, but when you can, sit face to face.  There are also always exceptions, you need to know your students for these. 

It is simple, but I have found it really helps make boys and girls more comfortable with the conversation.

Forcing a boy to stare at you when you talk will immediately make them withdraw.

Not facing a girl and not looking at them will immediately make them feel you don't care.

Give it a shot, what is the worst that can happen?