So today was the first day of school for my students and for my kids. My middle child, my daughter sometimes has a difficult time in situations. She is my creative, my attitude, my go the other way child. She is the generally the best behaved and I think in most situations my introvert.
She came home today and reported that she sat by herself at lunch. She did not know anyone. She is in 4th grade. She seemed fine with it (her attitude), by I know she wasn't. She has always had friends in her class to start the year, but not this year.
She did not want myself or her mother to intervene (her attitude). So I am putting my faith in her teachers that I know are wonderful, to recognize and do the subtle things that teachers do to make sure she starts to make connections and friends naturally.
So this is my call to all teachers. Recognize those kids, the one's that seem to walk alone at recess, sit alone at lunch, and maybe can't find a friend at group work time. Intentionally make opportunities for them, be strategic, not overt in helping them make connections. Allow them to share their interests in non-embarrassing ways. Allow them to find others with similar interests naturally. Do all those wonderful teacher things. I know my daughter counts on it and so do thousands if not millions of other kids.
Even more than the kids, the parents of those kids that start every year with this anxiety are counting on you. It is hard being a parent and trusting all this with a total stranger, but someone you know has your child's best interest at heart. It is a trust thing, and acceptance thing, but certainly not an easy thing. It's got me stressed out, although I know it will all work out.