I am referring to all interactions here as "they" and "them" just to keep it confidential. This is not about a kid, but our assumed role as educator. Not what you learn in college, but what you learn in the work. It is inevitable to all of us, and I felt this today more than usual.
It was 8:50, a parent came in. No big deal, they always come in at this time. They walk back after my dedicated secretary gives me a heads up. Never had a secretary before CD, but I appreciate her for this, more than she understands.
They come in as parents to speak to me about an issue or in this case to "make me aware" of a situation. I love my community and my school. I love how they want to share with me the inner most "issues" they are having. I am not going to share that or anything more, but this is more about what all of us as educators need to feel at this moment.
We are not all counselors, we are not psychiatrists, we are not psychologists, therapists, or doctors!!!
And this is exactly the point.....
We are educators, because our mission is to educate their most prized possession, we are open to everything. Think about it, no parent sends their most prize possession to a place for extended periods without a great amount of trust and faith.
With that faith and trust comes an unwritten contract that you are allowed to learn things about their family and their children that their grandparents, mom mom's, sometimes biological parents, uncles, and neighbors don't know.
This is a great responsibility, but one you sign up for the day you sign the contract to educate. This is not the reality colleges teach, the reality that reaches, the reason you stay in from season to season.
I would argue the story I heard today, although hurt, I felt for them, made me want to love my job more than ever. I don't want hardship, I want success, but I also want to be the rock, the reason they have faith, the reason they reach, the reason they strive to bring them to us, our school, our community, our number 1 on many levels, a beacon of caring, a place of safety, and place for them to learn. We have more coming to us than others for a reason. I am proud of that with my staff. It is hard at times, but worth it to see the successes! #cddolphins